Time to stop judging people!

Sam Smith has posted a picture of himself, shirtless, to reclaim his body. He wrote:

In the past if I have ever done a photo shoot with so much as a t-shirt on, I have starved myself for weeks in advance and then picked and prodded at every picture and then normally taken the picture down. Yesterday I decided to fight the fuck back. Reclaim my body and stop trying to change this chest and these hips and these curves that my mum and dad made and love so unconditionally. Some may take this as narcissistic and showing off but if you knew how much courage it took to do this and the body trauma I have experienced as a kid you wouldn’t think those things. Thank you for helping me celebrate my body AS IT IS @ryanpfluger I have never felt safer than I did with you. I’ll always be at war with this bloody mirror but this shoot and this day was a step in the right fucking direction 👅🤘🏼🍑

I don’t think any of us have the perfect body and we are feeling more pressure to look good. And the pressure is starting when we are young.

There was a 2016 survey of more than 1,000 boys aged between 8 and 18 where 55% said they would consider changing their diet to look better and 23% said they believed there was “a perfect male body to strive for”.

They found that the four biggest sources of pressure on secondary school boys to look good were:

  • Friends (68%)
  • Social media (57%)
  • Advertising (53%)
  • Celebrities (49%)

I’m not a person who follows the crowd, but I have always struggled with my body image and hate being seen naked, or even shirtless. I don’t have the perfect body, I am carrying extra weight and, to put it in a nutshell, it makes me feel bad, awkward and embarrassed. People judge you as you walk on the street, especially if you are eating. They judge you when out shopping in the supermarket.

Fat is a self-induced illness and deserves no sympathy! Bullshit!

Fat is a symptom, as a society, we need to find the cause. One of those causes is body shaming which makes normal people feel bad, so they turn to food for comfort.

If you see a man struggling to walk with a cast on his leg, you feel sympathy. That plaster cast is protecting an injury. Just think of fat as a plaster cast we put on our body to protect our mental and emotional injuries.

If you take one thing from this post… Please don’t judge people. Fat, thin, tall, short, loud, quiet; you don’t know their story, and they may be different. Let’s celebrate difference.

The Guy at the Gym

I’ve been going to the local gym for over a year now, and you get to see some interesting things in the changing room. I don’t even want to mention a particular old guy that stands in front of the mirror with the hairdryer drying his cock and balls.

But there is one guy I’ve seen a few times, he looks mid-thirties, quite slim and has great muscle definition. But it is two particular muscles that fascinate me; his gluteus maximus. The guy obviously takes care of himself, and he has very little body fat, and it shows.

He seems quite modest as I’ve only seen him from behind, but his buttocks are something to behold. They look so firm and pert, and I swear they don’t touch! That cleft in the middle just looks like a black hole, and I’m sure if the lighting was better I could see his little pucker. I have never seen such a muscular arse in my life.

Naked in School: Exquisite Fantasy or Dreaded Reality?

It’s one of those stories that you’ve always heard about but aren’t quite sure actually happened. They also make great fantasies that you wish happened when you were in school. But the reality would actually mortify most of us.

Now, I had swimming lessons when I was at school and the regulation uniform was black trunks. The thought of actually having to do the class naked would have embarrashed me so much I fear I might have actually died. But it appears that this did happen.

I’ve also heard stories that men would swim naked at the YMCA (where “They have everything For young men to enjoy. You can hang out with all the boys. It’s fun to stay at the Y.M.C.A.”)

I’ve never skinny dipped in the sea, lake, stream or river. About the only time I swam naked was when I had the pool to myself in a hotel I was staying at. I checked there were no CCTV cameras first and I only dared do one length, but at least I did it. I’m sure many of you have had much more adventurous experiences. I would love to hear them, or write them in the comments.

So regulatory nude swimming did happen in high schools and the YMCA in the United States, but did it happen in the UK or anywhere else? Let me know if it did happen, especially if it happened to you.

 

Gay Porn Filmed on the London Underground

Well it just goes to show that you have to be careful of what you put on social media.

George Mason, 35, aka HungYoungBrit and Nicholas Mullan, 24, from Belfast but known as Toby on an escort site, and a third unknown man filmed themselves in July 2017 having sex on the London Underground.

In February 2018 George Mason put a clip of the film on his twitter feed, which was seen by many. A gay man who saw it, thought that had crossed the line of what was acceptable behaviour and the incident was reported to the police.

I actually saw the full film several weeks ago and was surprised how far they went and how in the open they were. The carriage was originally empty but passengers did get on at various stops along The Northern Line.

And now the verdict of the court case is in.

George Mason  and was sentenced to an 18-month community order and fined £1,000 with court costs of £170.

Nicholas Mullan was not fined but told to pay £170 court costs and carry out a 12-month community order.

Both admitted the charge of outraging public decency

Magistrate Lucinda Lubbock was shown stills of the sex acts and said: “This was a very unpleasant and serious offence on the public underground.” she added: “This is a lesson to both of you. You have been humiliated in the court of social media.”

If you can cope with pop-ups and all the other crap that comes from a porn website, the full video can be seen here:

Extremely HIGH risk sex LIVE on busy London Underground

Some links to the story in the UK press.

BBC News Website – A trustworthy, independant and balanced news source

The Daily Mirror Website – Left wing biased tabloid bullshit

The Daily Mail Website – Right wing biased bullshit, it takes itself seriously while reporting on sensationalist, sometimes absurd stories.

The Sun – Tabloid, right wing leaning, reports garbage and sensationalises stories likes it’s second nature

George Mason was also part of a BBC Three programme called “Queer Britian”. Episode five is called “Porn Idols” where they head into the world of queer porn and meet the producers and performers bringing different sexuality and identities to the screen. George Mason is part of the segment on “Chav Porn”. You can also check out the article “In defence of ‘chav porn’“.

 

 

Tired & Fed Up

January and February are always busy months for me with long days and short nights. I barely get time to have a private life so when I check emails I don’t want to deal with a load of crap.

Recently I’ve been inundated with emails telling me I’ve been hacked and they have video of me wanking off to porn taken from my web cam. I must pay them bitcoin to stop them emailing everyone in my address book.

The first time I recieved this it really scared the crap out of me. I actually thought I’d been hacked. Then I thought if anyone had actually hacked my webcam all they could video is me looking blankly at the screen while surfing the BBC News website or the occasional forum; certainly no wanking or anything lewd at all.

Once I realised it was all complete bollocks I felt fucking annoyed.

One good thing did come out of it though. I have stepped up my cyber security and am using unique and complex passwords, I’ve even looked into ramping security on the website.